I decided that the single most subversive, revolutionary thing I could do was to show up for my life and not be ashamed.
I’ve noticed something lately…I am losing the ability to care about pleasing others to the detriment of myself. Over the years, as a daughter, friend, mother and wife, I have played the part of martyr quite well. I got pretty good at sweeping my needs and my voice under the rug and just going with the flow to keep the peace. But, that is not sustainable long term. It slowly eats away at you and robs you of your joy. So, I don’t know why or how this change started happening…maybe it was seeing loved ones racked with shame or seeing my own children silencing their voice at school or with friends. Either way, I’m just “done with it”, as my teenage daughter likes to say. And you know what? It feels really good. It feels so good on so many levels to honor myself, to stand up for myself. And while this may seem somewhat terrifying and “subversive” and “revolutionary”, I think those around you—who really love and honor you—will rejoice with you as you celebrate your newfound sense of freedom and joy