Monthly Archives: January 2022

I have a recurring dream. In the dream, I am running from a masked dark figure, who I think is a man in his twenties or thirties. He has a bag over his head. And it’s night. He is chasing me down a dark alley, the alley behind my childhood apartment complex in San Diego.Continue reading “Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself”

I have experienced some pretty dark moments in my life. As many of us have. And I think as many in the world are now. Sometimes it’s helpful to know why or where these feelings come from—whether it’s unresolved trauma, a current difficult situation, or unnamable existential fears or concerns. And sometimes, even if weContinue reading “Agency and Surrender…Navigating Challenging Waters”

Rumi calls it the guest house. Jon Kabat-Zinn refers to it as putting out the welcome mat. I call it baking blueberry muffins. It is the act of opening our heart to all of our experience. To every sensation. Every emotion. Every thought. Especially the less-desirable ones. And more than just begrudgingly saying, ok comeContinue reading “Blueberry Muffins”

I’ve been thinking lately about therapy and spirituality. And the intersection of the two. Therapy asks us to dive deep. Expose and examine. Find out all the reasons why we struggle. Why we are triggered. All that shadow shit. And spirituality says, oh dear you are so much more than your experiences; you are aContinue reading “A new way…”

I recently read an article with the phrase fake it till you make it. And it did not sit well with me. I get the rationale behind it; we don’t always feel grateful or overflowing with forgiveness or particularly grounded or clear about whatever the hell crisis has arrived on our doorstep that morning… ButContinue reading “Fake it till you make it? No More…”

I have been thinking a lot about abandonment. Ways that we have been abandoned by parents or friends or loved ones. Ways that we have been let down by life. And how we internalize these wounds. We make it about us. Especially when it comes to the old primal wounds of feeling unloved or uncaredContinue reading “Self-Abandonment”

I’ve been thinking lately about dialectical thinking. The ability to view issues from multiple perspectives. We could definitely use a bit more of this on the world stage. But I’m thinking less globally. More personally.   Despite all my work on myself and despite all the books and therapy and even the way I triedContinue reading “Hard to Human”

I woke this morning to snow! I love the look of snow. And the smell. There is a cleanness to snow. And beauty. It covers all the dirt. Which is sometimes how I think about hope. As I’ve been out and about these past few days and chatted to people and ask how their NewContinue reading “Let It Snow…”

Usually at this time of year, I find myself revisiting Carl Jung. What strikes me in particular about this reading is how much of our work involves looking at what irritates us. In others. This irritating person is reflecting back to us a part of ourselves—one that we deny and denigrate. Sometimes these manifest asContinue reading “All are Welcome!”