As I get older, I have less patience for an agreeability that requires a silencing. A semi-pretending.
Yet, agreeability is important; it is key to our survival.
So, how do we keep our agreeability and not lose our voice? How, in a sea of TikTok videos and social media influencers and strong parents and bossy friends, do we even know what our voice is?
For poet e.e. Cummings, the answer is found in feeling. He writes, Almost anybody can learn to think or believe or know, but not a single human being can be taught to feel. Why? Because whenever you think or you believe or you know, you’re a lot of other people: but the moment you feel, you’re nobody-but-yourself.
So the instruction is clear: feel your feelings. Guard them. Honor them. Journal them. Sing them. Paint them. Run or dance them. They are yours and they need to be felt and heard. Let them teach you who you are.
You are here to be nobody-but-yourself. Not a carbon copy. Not a people pleaser. Not agreeable to the point of losing oneself. You are here to realize your unique and Divine potential.
Which sometimes will agree and sometimes not.
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I like that image of the uniqueness of our feelings and owning them: dancing with them. Pausing before we speak and loving the kind beautiful person we are. And if we are not kind . . . Could we pause a little longer?