Category Archives: Life Coaching

I’ve been thinking lately about therapy and spirituality. And the intersection of the two. Therapy asks us to dive deep. Expose and examine. Find out all the reasons why we struggle. Why we are triggered. All that shadow shit. And spirituality says, oh dear you are so much more than your experiences; you are aContinue reading “A new way…”

I recently read an article with the phrase fake it till you make it. And it did not sit well with me. I get the rationale behind it; we don’t always feel grateful or overflowing with forgiveness or particularly grounded or clear about whatever the hell crisis has arrived on our doorstep that morning… ButContinue reading “Fake it till you make it? No More…”

I have been thinking a lot about abandonment. Ways that we have been abandoned by parents or friends or loved ones. Ways that we have been let down by life. And how we internalize these wounds. We make it about us. Especially when it comes to the old primal wounds of feeling unloved or uncaredContinue reading “Self-Abandonment”

I’ve been thinking lately about dialectical thinking. The ability to view issues from multiple perspectives. We could definitely use a bit more of this on the world stage. But I’m thinking less globally. More personally.   Despite all my work on myself and despite all the books and therapy and even the way I triedContinue reading “Hard to Human”

I woke this morning to snow! I love the look of snow. And the smell. There is a cleanness to snow. And beauty. It covers all the dirt. Which is sometimes how I think about hope. As I’ve been out and about these past few days and chatted to people and ask how their NewContinue reading “Let It Snow…”

Usually at this time of year, I find myself revisiting Carl Jung. What strikes me in particular about this reading is how much of our work involves looking at what irritates us. In others. This irritating person is reflecting back to us a part of ourselves—one that we deny and denigrate. Sometimes these manifest asContinue reading “All are Welcome!”

We are nearing that time of year, the end of the year. And the age-old tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions. I am not anti-resolution. I love goals, and anyone who knows me knows that I am the queen of lists. I’ve got a dry erase board on the fridge for just that purpose! ButContinue reading “Fulcrum”

In his recent poem “Vaccinated”, Jericho Brown writes about the first time he went out after having been vaccinated and attending a performance of the first Black Miss International Queen. About the poem, he writes that he realized just how much I need social interaction (and social reinforcement from queer people in particular) in orderContinue reading “Calling all Reinforcements!”

I’ve been thinking a lot about apologies. The I’m sorry’s we say and the ones we hear. Apologies are great. And necessary for healthy relationships. We need to own up. But, oftentimes, apologies are not declarative offerings, but rather requests riddled with expectations. It goes something like this: Please help me rewrite the version ofContinue reading “I’m Sorry’s”

I think one of the most challenging elements to growing up is accepting that life can be complicated and mysterious and nuanced. That easy answers are not always found. Especially when it comes to our families of origin. How do I have a relationship with this person I really love but who also hurt meContinue reading “Difficult and Radiant”